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Thursday, October 25, 2007

Breastfeed with Confidence

I was overnight visiting a relative we haven't seen in a while. It was late and David was tired and wanted to nurse to sleep. I felt like staying in the common area rather than take him in to bed because I still felt like chatting with our host. David plays with the opposite nipple and bra hooks when he nurses. I admit, sometimes it's annoying to be rubbed and I try to guide his hand away or distract his hand.

My curious relative said, "C'mon, it's like he's groping you... that can't be the same sweet feelings you get when you look down at your nursing newborn!" This must be quite a site for someone who is hardly ever 'round kids. I am around breastfeeding babies and children daily and know this is typical normal healthy behavior. AND just so everyone knows-- it is a very good feeling to know David continues to get his comfort and nutritional needs met. I am confident in my abilities and choices after the many years I have fed my children at the breast, but many mothers aren't. A comment like this from a well-intended relative can be very intimidating. It is my hope that my perspective builds up a nursing mother's confidence to keep up the good work without doubt or shame.

6 comments:

Catalina Bowen said...

It's so true! Just one little comment from someone can really make you think twice as a mother in regards to continuing to breastfeed into the toddler years. That's something I'm dealing with now and have decided to not tell anyone my intentions but to deal with people's ideas of what should and shouldn't happen one day at a time. Thank you for you story because it helps with my desire to pursue breastfeeding ... :D

Courtney said...

Isn't is sad that you feel like you have to hide? Thanks for sharing this. It is good to know you are not alone. I find most people are uncomfortable with a nursing baby past 6 months of age even!

pearly1979 said...
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Permission to Mother said...

Thanks Sarah for sharing.

Anonymous said...

Thank you! My 25 month old is still nursing, and in the past month my mother-in-law has asked me twice "So now that she is two, WHEN ARE you going to wean her?" My husband, who is incredibly supportive of my choice to breastfeed, responds to her with the joke answer "She has to be weaned by the time she goes to prom!" She didn't like that response so I mumbled something about mother led weaning and child led weaning and how I think that I will probably do mother lead weaning, but my daughter certainly isn't ready for that right now. I figure, one day she will be, and that is when we can stop. I wish I could be more confident with the people who criticize what I am doing, perhaps then they will leave me alone! - Kristen

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this story. It came at the perfect time for me. Next week I will be visiting family that I have not seen in a couple of years. My son will be four years next month and is nursing. I have been feeling stressed out about the subject and it is nice to feel the support of others who know the conversations that arise between a four yr old and mom when nursing. It is good to know i am not the only one.

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