Saturday, February 19, 2011
The boys are full of pride. That's what counts!
This has been very meaningful for Scott. Scott wants David to have a Bar Mitzvah just like his: At home, small and intimate. I take Scott's opinion as a high level of satisfaction.
William has pride too, but in different ways. He's glad he had a party and sleep-over with friends and good food. The meaning for him will sink in over time. Unexpectedly, he went to a Bar Mitzvah today. Now if you asked me, who would have been in synagogue first (after the Bar Mitzvah) from my sons, I would have never picked William. Scott has actually asked to go to a service as a man, but William had the fortunate opportunity to go with his buddy and I think his pride and connection is apparent.
John is happy because we didn't run out of food (runing out of food was the one thing that would have embaressed him) and everything from the party-end went smooth. He felt like we handled the amount of people without a crisis and even thinks that at next party we could handle more. ( A NEXT PARTY... that's really great that he is is so inspired!)
I am happy because I fulfilled my responsibility in rekindling the Jewish spirit in my home, teaching Judaism faithfully to my children, and providing the boys with this opportunity.
Our adult guests said they felt uplifted by the ceremony. In fact, one guest, called me this morning, after a week, to tell me how uplifted she felt all week, she felt inspired to reference the songs and prayers in her Bible. How special she felt to be included in an important event in our sons lives. I got similar feedback nearly everyday from our guests this week.
William said the teens had fun.
So, I am very satisfied with how things went.
I thought I got a break from studying. However David is even so excited that he asked to start studying his Hebrew letters that night on behrmanhouse.com. He has opened up his student center almost every evening.
I was a little worried that after the celebration there would be a let down that there was nothing else to look forward too. Like TV and movies build up Birthdays and Holidays. There was no build up. You don't see Bar Mitzvahs on TV much and the boys had only been to one or two Bar Mitzvahs previously.
In planning we asked the boys what they wanted. They chose the prayers and music. They had input into the food choices. They made the guest list. Not to be sappy, but if we invited you, we really missed you. Really, really missed you.
Posted by Denise Punger MD IBCLC at 8:56 PM
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Our guests asked ahead of time if the ceremony is usually at a Temple. Yes, a Bar Mitzvah Ceremony is traditionally held at a Synagogue during regular Saturday service when a boy turns thirteen. With our family being an eclectic spiritual mix, the boy’s learning style, and my need to be unique, we decided to do it this way. Plus we wanted to open our new home to you.
In Judaism, the rule is, is if the mother is Jewish, the children are Jewish. With each passing generation, like many modern Jewish families, my family seemed to be getting away from the traditions that make us Jewish. With so much separation from customs, ironically, my biggest inspiration to rekindle the tradition is from you, my family and friends, who I observed, were faithful to your spirituality. Before we started our formal study of Judaism we actually attended congregation and camps with many of you. I was health-fully jealous that many of you had well-grounded spiritual homes. Although today we represent different denominations, every one, here today has influenced and inspired the boys to reach this mile stone.
Posted by Denise Punger MD IBCLC at 11:49 AM
Thank you for allowing me to become a Bar Mitzvah today. To me becoming a Bar Mitzvah means becoming a man in G-d’s eyes. This day is important to me because I want to become a Man in G-d’s eyes and I am ready to become accountable for my Jewish responsibilities and to make this world a better place through the mitzvah’s I perform.
I would like to thank a few people for helping me get to this place today. I want to thank my mom for her persistence to follow through on her desire to raise me to get a Jewish education. I would like to thank my Cantor Debbi for being available to our family, for her accommodation and flexibility. I would like to thank my Grandma Irma, who sets an example of praying for us all the time, and my Grandma Maxine for taking me to the Jewish stores to get ready. I want thank my dad for writing the BIG check and letting me have the celebration here at the house. I want to thank the rest of my family and friends for being here today and along the way.
I want to make this world a better place. I pray that I am able to go to college and have a good job. I pray to be happy and healthy and one day I want a family of my own. I pray that my actions and model may be an example to others.
I pray for the world. I pray for Israel. I pray that the country has a credible government. I pray for the safety of the people living in Israel. I pray that the Armed Forces come home safe. I pray for no terrorism and for the American economy to get better.
Posted by Denise Punger MD IBCLC at 11:05 AM
My parents are fortunate to have good health, good jobs, and three strong and smart boys, ESPECIALLY me. I thank my parents for their priorities and core values. My mom kind of forced me to study Judaisim, but at least I got to be home-shuled to prepare for this day today.
I THANK my mom who just keeps nagging me to get my work done, even karate and class work when I’d rather be playing. I thank my dad because I am created in his image and I am just like him.
I THANK my Grandma’s who encourage me and says stuff like, “You can do it!”
I THANK Debbi, my Cantor, who drove a long ways to us and always says my worK is “Fabulous!”
I THANK my family and friends who can celebrate with me today.
I pray that I can be a good person and in the meantime, prepare for a good job.
For the world, I hope in a day soon to come that there will be Peace, and no terrorism in Israel. It must be scary living in Israel with bombings and threats so common.
Posted by Denise Punger MD IBCLC at 10:45 AM
William: What do we learn from all this? What does the right clothes for the right purpose have to do with anything else in life? Well, the uniforms, which are clothes designated for a specific purpose, are symbolic for taking what you've got, using it in the right way, for the right reason. G-d does not expect you to be perfect, but you do need to do your best effort with what you got. My brother and I are fortunate to be surrounded by loved ones, have good health, and we have parents that meet our needs. My brother and I are smart enough to know that these are blessings we are given. Now as Bar Mitzvah's we are responsible for what our Torah portion teaches us: to be aware of the spiritual and ethical consequences of our actions.
Posted by Denise Punger MD IBCLC at 10:30 AM
Friday, February 11, 2011
Tomorrow is my boys big day! The will become Bar Mitzvahs. I have scheduled some of their speeches and stories to be published on my blog tomorrow along with photos of some of the preparation, so check back...
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Posted by Denise Punger MD IBCLC at 12:08 PM
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Posted by Denise Punger MD IBCLC at 12:02 AM